You are as free as you are self-disciplined.

you are as free as you are self-disciplined.

you must have heard this sentence.

how good self-discipline is, early to bed and early to rise, reading, exercising, eating regularly, getting healthier and healthier is indeed a shining life.

but knowing is one thing, and when it's your turn to do it, it's another.

because there is a kind of people, the more self-discipline, the more painful; there is a kind of self-discipline, called self-abuse.

01

are you self-disciplined or masochistic?

A friend shouted the slogan of self-discipline in moments for two or three years, but so far there has been no real progress.

usually, she stays up late, plays games and eats takeout. Once she sees other people's strong self-management ability, she is stimulated and vows to turn over a new leaf.

but she always tries too hard.

before getting up at eight o'clock, she immediately changed to five o'clock;

, who almost never exercised, forced herself to run five kilometers every day;

the game machine was locked up and forcibly changed to reading.

as a result, getting up early is torture, running is torture, going to work is lethargic after a disorder of work and rest, and getting more and more irritable every day.

once she sleeps in one day, she will feel guilty and break the jar: forget it, I'm done.

the next time I am stimulated by someone, I will beat chicken blood intermittently and lie flat continuously, like an endless cycle.

this kind of self-discipline is a kind of endless penance, painstaking efforts, strenuous bones and bones, which requires great endurance and willpower.

but the reality is that it is human instinct to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages and indulge in pleasure.

someone once interviewed a man who could never lose weight and asked him, "when do you feel the need to eat?"

he said: "when I am impatient and physically uncomfortable, I want to eat, because it can relieve a lot."

that's what people do. When they get tight, they ease up, and when they have a backlog, they want to release it.

Japanese writer Daisuke Shijiao said: from the beginning, our brains do not have the structure of patience and patience.

you may endure a moment of hunger and pain, but a few days later, you find fried chicken, games and sleep taste better.

this is why the more a person abuse himself, the more painful he is, the more he blames himself, the more depressed he is, and then gives up.

self-discipline is attracted by beauty and takes the initiative to move forward.

self-abuse is forcing yourself into a corner and then collapsing again and again.

02

the truth of habitual self-discipline: be sure that you

like an inspirational movie called Love for a hundred dollars.

A 32-year-old son is an unemployed housegirl.

she squats at home eating junk food and playing games every day. She has no job, no ideal, only fat.

with nothing to do and no intention to help take care of the family's restaurant, she doesn't know what to do in the future. She is a capital decadent.

until one day, a son walked into a boxing gym and saw those sweaty people, she had the belief that my life would burn once.

from the first punch, her whole person began to change.

she couldn't get up as soon as she lay down, so she began to jump rope, run and practice boxing every day.

clothes have changed from baggy size clothes to capable sportswear.

on the road, she can fight alone as if there was no one else.

and the reason why she can beat inertia day after day, rain or shine, is that day by day exercise has brought her positive changes visible to the naked eye.

the fat is gone, and so are the sloppy habits.

positive replaced decadence and firmly dispelled confusion.

Do not think anymore, do not look anymore, red floor length formal attire is all you need to bring out the best in your feminism. We have fantastic choices for your important dates!

it is reborn on the outside and reborn on the inside.

every change in her body tells her that you are getting better day by day.

this positive feedback of self-affirmation is the strongest force that drives a person's self-discipline.

the reason why many people vacillate between "self-discipline" and "giving up" is that we all have two selves, an impulsive self and a rational self.

in the face of a delicious meal, the former advises you: "eat, have a good time."

the latter advises you: "if you eat, you'd better exercise. You'd better be rational."

impulsive self-myopia brings emotion, complacency when you do it, frustration if you fail, and it is easy to fall into the cycle of "self-discipline-giving up".

rational self has a long-term foothold, stare at the ideal self, accumulate a sense of achievement, leave hesitation, and forge ahead.

in this way, the superposition of positive feedback pushes us into the track of continuous self-discipline.

03

the extreme of self-discipline: repeat simple little things

where does the self-affirmation that motivates you come from?

has he lost ten jin in three months? Read ten books in two months? Get up early for 20 days in a row?

No. These big goals, which are difficult to achieve in a short time, are likely to make you raise your hand and surrender halfway.

almost all habitual self-discipline begins with a small thing.

find a simple thing that makes you feel comfortable and you don't have to struggle, and then repeat it over and over again.

1. The most regular schedule: early to bed and early to rise

Douban netizens share their experience of going to bed early.

in the past, she didn't want to sleep at night. She put it off until two or three o'clock and couldn't get up in the morning until her body couldn't bear it.

in order to make herself go to bed early, she began to get up early one day, and in the evening, her body naturally became sleepy.

after the biological clock is adjusted, enough sleep gives her a sense of control: I can procrastinate.You can control your time.

this sense of control stems from sleep, but affects all aspects of her life.

2. The healthiest habits: moderate exercise, diet

as the saying goes: eat seven percent full, love eight percent.

in addition, the phrase "six minutes of exercise" should be added.

for our bodies, everything is a degree.

exercise, pay attention to step by step, otherwise it will hurt the body. Eat, pay attention to the point so far, otherwise it is your own burden.

the so-called self-discipline comes from self-control.

so, if you want to have a healthy body, you don't have to try too hard, just the right amount, and don't be insatiable, temperance is the best.

3. The most long-term benefits: work to earn money

Yi Shu said: a person has a job, there is sustenance, life is not difficult.

in fact, in this anxious and impetuous atmosphere, it is a rare self-discipline to be able to do a good job, have a stable income and make money in a down-to-earth manner.

working to make money is a common thing that we have to face when we open our eyes, but it determines what kind of life we have in the end.

people who are self-disciplined in their work work silently day by day, accumulate silently, unmoved by temptation and not disturbed by noise.

doing well in front of you, diligence and simplicity are the invisible virtues of adults.

4. The most efficient growth: read and learn

well-known investor Charlie Munger, who has met countless millionaires and top elites in various industries.

after years of experience in the industry, he came to the conclusion that

there are no smart people I have met in my life who don't read every day. Buffett is a book with two legs.

it is said that the last thing a person can't give up in his life is the self.

however, there is a premise that you don't give up on yourself-- don't give up reading and learning.

has the ability of lifelong learning, reading every day, instead of indulging in the immediate short-term pleasure, also widens the gap between people.

American psychologist Kelly McGonagall believes that continuous self-control over small things will improve overall willpower.

your ultimate goal can be big and beautiful, but your steps should be small and solid.

the most important thing is to remember one sentence:

allow yourself to make a little mistake temporarily, always remember the destination you want to reach, and keep getting closer is a self-disciplined life.