Talk to sensible people, do things with down-to-earth people, and talk to honest people.

Cao Cao's "short Song Line" poem: "the wine is the song, the geometry of life!" For example, the morning dew has suffered a lot in the past. "

Yes, human life is short, like the fleeting morning dew, and there are too many days lost.

but there are three mistakes in life that many of us often make.

these three mistakes are:

first, to speak clearly to the muddle-headed;

second, to try to do serious things with unreliable people;

third, to talk about feelings and friendship with ruthless people.

have you ever made one of the above three mistakes?

in fact, the older generation reminded us long ago that we should have a scale in mind when we are away from home.

whether you are working for a person or doing something, you should choose the right object and use the best way.

talk to sensible people, do things with down-to-earth people, and talk to honest people about love.

01

talk to sensible people

as the saying goes, "I would rather quarrel with those who understand than talk to those who are confused."

the same thing, tell sensible people that as long as you have good intentions and what you say is reasonable, it doesn't matter to say it in front of sensible people, or even to have an open debate.

because a wise man has a bottom line, he will reason with you.

but confused people are different. dealing with confused people is like facing a beast. You don't know when he will hurt people, because his worldview is very different from yours. In his world, he doesn't understand what you say. He even thinks you're talking nonsense.

therefore, the truth should be explained to the clear, and do not argue with the muddle-headed, because when you argue, it is yourself who will be hurt.

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in fact, he did not want to resist the oppression of his master at all, but complained in tears to everyone, satisfied with hypocritical and cheap sympathy and empty and shallow comfort.

the wise man listens to the lackey's grievances, shows compassion and sympathy, and gets the lackey's heartfelt thanks.

and the fool foolishly thought that he wanted to change his situation. when he began to help the lackey resist the oppression of his master, the lackey shouted to beat the "robber", entangled other lackeys to drive him away, and proudly asked the master for merit.

this fool is a confused person. One of the characteristics of a confused person is that he knows almost nothing about human feelings, and he can't understand what you're saying.

02

do things with down-to-earth people

as the old saying goes, "learn from the good guys and learn from the bad guys."

it means that we should have a pair of "golden eyes" to distinguish between good and evil, loyalty and good, and enchantment.

interact with people, be accurate in judging people, and unreliable people cannot cooperate.

because it is difficult for them to do things sincerely and with a correct attitude.

unreliable people, on the one hand, they are full of lies and are too lazy; on the other hand, they do not keep their promises and are not responsible.

it is said in "the combination of sayings", "when villains do things, they do good to those who benefit from them, and harm to those who benefit from them."

cooperate with the villain, and if you share his interests, he will make a profit with you; once the cooperation is harmful to the villain's interests, he will persecute you instead.

therefore, it is impossible to cooperate with such people who are too "digging for money".

it is inevitable and normal that there are occasional conflicts of interest in cooperation. At this time, it is often the reliability of the partner that is tested.

once there is a dispute of interest, it will break up at once, and all previous efforts will be wasted. This is the kind of person we do not want to encounter.

frivolous, impetuous, greedy for profit, greed for fame, and so on, are all important bases for you to distinguish a person from being "reliable".

Zeng Guofan paid great attention to reliability in employing people.

one of his demands on civil servants is that there is no "bureaucracy".

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what is bureaucracy? This is the man: smooth, resourceful and opportunistic.

two of his criteria for selecting generals are "not anxious for fame and fortune" and "endure hard work".

Zeng Guofan's servants only like to have "homesickness". These people are down-to-earth and reliable.

03

talk to honest people

talk about feelings in life, the most afraid of meeting the following two kinds of people.

those who are cold-blooded and ruthless, and those who have ulterior motives.

A cold-blooded person is like a "cold-blooded animal". His heart is made of pig iron and has no temperature.

people with ulterior motives regard you as "a chess piece" and take advantage of your "feelings".

when we "talk about feelings" and "friendship" with others, we all need to know what kind of person this person is before deciding the next step.

Boya and Zhong Ziqi are good friends. Boya is good at playing the piano, while Zhong Ziqi is good at listening to music.

at first Boya played the piano, and the sound echoed in the mountains and pine forests. No one could understand the beautiful sound of the piano. Boya played the piano alone, and his heart was sad and sad, and it was hard to find a bosom friend.

once Boya was playing in Mount Tai, taking shelter from the rain under the big rocks, having nothing to do and playing the piano.

he met the clock period when he also took shelter under the rocks.

when Boya was playing the piano, he thought of climbing a high mountain.

Zhong Ziqi said happily, "how well you play!" I seem to see a lofty mountain! "

Boya thought about running water again, and Zhong Ziqi said, "how well you play!" I seem to see the vast ocean of rivers and seas! "

every time Boya thinks something, Zhong Ziqi can understand what Boya thinks from the sound of the piano.

so Boya and Zhong Ziqi established a deep friendship. Needless to say, Zhong Ziqi also knew what he was thinking.Are a pair of like-minded bosom friends.

so, when Zhong Ziqi died, Boya dropped the piano and never played again.

the so-called emotional people, to meet people who know themselves, only if they are like-minded can sincere feelings come out.

only such people are worthy of our acquaintance, friendship, or love.

the experience left behind by the older generation tells us that when we behave and do things, we should first act like a mirror in our hearts.

when speaking, we should have different ways of speaking to different speakers.

to sensible people, you can make yourself clear. For foolish people, it is better to say less.

when choosing a partner, try to find someone you can rely on, not someone you can't rely on.

when you fall in love, you should see whether the other person has a good character or not, and don't decide to love someone just on the basis of gorgeous appearance.

when dealing with people, you should see clearly whether the other person is honest and generous, don't be too hasty, and just rely on a face-to-face acquaintance to think that this is a friend who is worth taking out your heart and heart.

remember that it makes sense to spend time and feelings on the right person.