Mother's mouth is the fengshui of a family (parents are advised to keep it permanently)

the mall is full of people.

A 5-or 6-year-old girl played with water in the bathroom of the mall and wet her sleeves a lot.

her mother grabbed her. Because of the strength, the little girl staggered and said:

"are you going to die? Clothes are free, right?

how did I give birth to such a thing like you?

the little girl seemed frightened and her eyes were dim, like a puppet, letting her mother ramble about.

how big is the feud with the child that he curses the child to die during the Mid-Autumn Festival?

Why is it so easy for mothers to blurt out these hurtful words, especially to their children who are pregnant for 10 months?

words are often the sharpest weapons, and these words, like bayonets, inadvertently hurt a child's heart.

Mom, your meanness and frustration are hidden in your meanness.

Mom, your mouth is full of love, but your face is ferocious.

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every time in front of relatives, my mother will directly say what's wrong with her.

she heard that her heart was so aggrieved that she shed tears endlessly, but her hard work was never recognized, and she kept talking when she caught making a mistake.

A Xuan offered to help with the housework, but her mother thought she was slow and unclean.

does not do housework, but also says that she is lazy and does not know how to pay for her family and sympathize with her parents.

A Xuan's mother never gives up any chance to bring it up again, just like a broken record player, repeatedly complaining about the child's bad behavior and how the child humiliated her.

my mother's harsh and paranoid words planted the seeds of inferiority in the heart of 12-year-old Ah Xuan.

A lot of things are caused by trivial things.

A child is like a jar in which adults throw all their complaints about life and bitter words into the jar, and one day the jar will explode.

when malicious, mean words blurt out, any of my mother's goodness is gone.

No child can shine in the dark.

A sentence "I am your mother, how dare you talk back to me?" The heart of gratitude has also become the heart of complaining.

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the mother's mouth

determines the height of the child's life

Hu Shi once wrote in my Mother:

but in reality, how many mothers are afraid that their children will go to heaven with a few words of praise, for fear that one less fight will lead to the black sheep.

"they have never been qualified parents, but they always ask us to be qualified children."

25-year-old Tian Tian is venting her dissatisfaction in moments.

"it's better to have a dog than to have a dog, who knows how to wag his tail." This is what Tian Tian's mother used to say to her.

Tian Tian has never been able to change her mother's way of talking, which is her most confused question.

Tian Tian has tried to be gentle, to please, to act coquettish, to be fierce, to buy things for her mother.

but it seems that only when the mother wants to be nice to her.

Tian Tian doesn't like the way her mother talks, but Tian Tian thinks she is becoming more and more like her mother.

Mom's occasional swearing, occasional roar, and Tian Tian are all absorbed and internalized unwittingly.

these things are presented in sweet speech acts, so when Tian Tian is communicating with her mother, they often can't communicate calmly.

they often quarrel over trifles.

"when I grow up, I will be you."

seems to be a curse.

in fact, what Tian Tian doesn't like is herself, and the saddest thing is that the child can never convince her parents.

even if parents are used to facing their children with hideous faces, children can never say no.

praising children is a sign that they dote on them too much; justifiably criticizing, even beating and scolding is the right direction for parenting.

when they grow up, children have been able to tell right from wrong and can live independently without their parents, but those habits of inferiority and self-denial that go deep into the bone marrow will stay with them for the rest of their lives.

in order to prevent the same situation from happening to the next generation of children, children also need to spend a lot of time and energy to appease their hearts, give themselves courage and self-confidence.

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Mother's mouth

is the feng shui of a family

Emerson has a famous saying:

every child's heart is soft and tender, and a light sentence from a mother is sometimes more painful than a slap in the face.

Huanhuan is 32 years old. As far as I can remember, she has not been shopping sweetly with her mother.

even though she tried to change her rigid relationship with her mother after marriage, she later found that a rapprochement would not change her mother's temper.

before she got married, her mother scolded the ring almost every day. Her mother wanted her to be successful and thought she knew about it.

the mother always holds that she is a parent, thinking that it is normal to beat and scold her child, but as a child, she has to put up with it.

Ring has been scolded by her mother as a psychopath. After scolding too much and listening for a long time, she sometimes wonders if she is a psychopath.

missing care is a gap, a dark family ring.Environment is a sharp blade.

when watching loved ones speak freely and abuse wantonly in front of them;

when those who respect and love deeply tear off the mask of hypocrisy in front of them and reveal their ferocious faces;

it is the most painful time for children to know that there is nothing they can do after being fully enlightened.

speaking is the least costly. Talking well tests the wisdom and pattern of being a mother.

Smart mother, in life, never open her mouth and embarrass people, but is kind to others, like a spring breeze.

A good woman who can talk is the gentleman of a man, the guide of a child, and the soul of a family.

A family's attitude towards life and spirit will be imperceptibly passed on from generation to generation.

Mother's mouth is the best feng shui for a family.

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speaking well is a mother's lifelong practice.

what is the experience of being added up by a mother's evil words?

that feeling can only be felt by those who are in it: fear, tension and anger are intertwined.

if the child refrains from arguing with his parents, the scene is even more out of control.

"this kind of person has read books into the belly of a dog!" "for people like you, I'm sure no one will want you in the future, and you can't get married."

"A man in his twenties is like a three-year-old child!"

in this case, I don't know how many children's childhood has been accompanied.

maybe mothers forget after scolding, they don't even know they have said these words, and simply regard their children as emotional "trash cans".

when the child is angry, the mother will feel that it is unreasonable.

in the face of mother's verbal violence, some children regard the painful feelings as a part of life, and even rationalize them:

"I can't blame her, after all, I did something wrong first.

she had such high moral expectations of me, and I committed a crime that made her so sad. "

sometimes, when mothers change their way of speaking, can they educate their children well?

the mother who cleaned the house all day was very tired, and then said to her child angrily:

"Why are you so lazy and motionless?"

at this time, you might as well say:

there is something wrong with the child. It is really not advisable to insult the child.

taking a walk in the world, being a relative is a kind of fate.

Don't say hurtful words, but say more warm words.

considering the feelings of children and talking well, it is a kind of kindness to be a mother, and it is also a lifelong practice.

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Cai Yuanpei once wrote in the cultivation of the Chinese:

"A family is the school at the beginning of life."

the character of a lifetime, the so-called constant change, is probably born in the family. "

for parents, parenting is self-rearing.

who can sow a cactus seed and end up with a bunch of orchids?

"once there was a pair of small hands, trying to grasp two big hands, because holding tight is happiness, but no matter how he grasped it, he couldn't catch it."

parents also come from their children, giving hugs and warmth to every child who suffers from verbal violence.

A happy family has no sharp criticism and angry beating and scolding.