Emotional stability is the best upbringing for a person.

Napoleon has a famous saying: "he who can control his emotions is greater than the general who can take down a city."

everyone understands this truth, but not everyone controls their little emotions.

emotion is an invisible thing, but it invisibly affects the development of everyone's life.

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Don't be led by emotion

"emotion is a demon. If you don't control it, it will engulf you."

if you can't control your emotions, you become a demon; if you control your emotions, you are your own god.

writer Shen Congwen was born in Fenghuang County, Hunan Province. he has only received primary school education and is eager to go to college.

in 1923, Shen Congwen made up his mind to apply for Peking University, but failed.

on the day his grades came out, he was so depressed that he even wanted to go back to his hometown to farm.

but Shen Congwen quickly adjusted his mood and said to himself, "although I haven't been admitted to the university, I can continue to study and write. As long as I don't give up, I will succeed one day."

so Shen Congwen sat in on Peking University and began to write articles. His works were published in Morning Post and Modern Review one after another.

Shen Congwen is notoriously good-tempered and does not lose his temper. He said: "as far as it is inevitable for me to deal with any difficulties, I always accept it in silence, neither discouraging nor moaning."

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nine times out of ten, there are unpleasant things in life, and controlling emotions is the real skill.

once we are led by emotions, we get into trouble and are unable to think calmly.

there is a sociological rule called Festinger's law:

10% of life is made up of what happens to you, while the other 90% is determined by how you react to what happens.

as the saying goes, "phase comes from the heart, and the environment changes with the heart."

A person's mood can change the direction of things.

the more irritable you are, the easier it is to let things fail.

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good temper is nurtured

someone asked Yang Jiang, "Why are you so good-tempered?"

Yang Jiang replied, "A person's good temper is formed in reading and traveling." You have a strong heart and have seen the world, so you don't get angry easily because of small things. "

when Yang Jiang was in the month, Qian Zhongshu was in charge of housework and other chores. He told Yang Jiang about his mistakes. On the first day, Qian Zhongshu said, "I knocked over the ink bottle and soiled the landlady's tablecloth."

Yang Jiang smiled and said, "it doesn't matter."

the next day, he reported that I had broken the lamp.

Yang Jiang still replied, "never mind, I can fix it."

third day. Qian Zhongshu blushed and said, "the handles and steel balls on the door have also fallen off, and several bowls in the kitchen have been broken."

Yang Jiang smiled and said, "never mind, we'll just get a new one."

if she were a wife with a bad temper, she would have quarreled with her husband several times.

while Yang Jiang is, as always, tolerant of her husband's mistakes.

the reason why a woman has a good temper is not that she has no temper.

but because she is open-minded, clear-minded and knows how to distinguish between right and wrong in an environment full of love.

We see people who are apt to lose control of their emotions, often because of their lack of love in childhood and lack of enlightened education when they grow up.

Reading and traveling can nourish a person's good temper and mood.

in books, they will tell you the wisdom of sages and sages and teach you the character of "take it up and let it go";

while traveling, you will see all kinds of scenery and strangers, and develop a gentle character in trivial itinerary.

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emotional stability is the best blessing for a family

Mr. Hu Shi wrote in my Mother: "I have come to understand that the most abominable thing in the world is an angry face; the dirtiest thing in the world is like showing an angry face to others, which is worse than beating and scolding."

parents' emotions can affect the character of their children all their lives.

Zhang ailing is a talented woman of a generation, but she has many problems in love and marriage, lack of sense of security, withdrawn personality and low self-esteem.

and her character has a lot to do with her mother.

when she was a child, Zhang ailing moved furniture a little slowly, and her mother would call Zhang ailing a pig in front of relatives.

when Zhang ailing is ill and needs to spend money to see a doctor, her mother will yell, "anyway, you live to hurt people."

Father and mother quarreled and broke things all day, which left a great shadow in Zhang ailing's mind.

her words are endless sad and cold.

having a bad temper and venting emotions is the lowest level of selfishness.

the temper of parents can affect the growth of several generations, or even the development of a family.

being emotionally stable and not losing your temper at random is the best blessing for a family.

A child who is often praised by his parents is confident in front of anyone and will not be easily defeated.

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the mood is stable, but it doesn't mean that anyone can handle it.

du Yuesheng has a good saying: first-class people have ability but no temper; second-class people have ability and temper; and people in the end have no ability and big temper.

some people may ask, are you not so grumpy that you have become a doormat at the mercy of others?

in fact, the real emotional stability is to solve the problem by your own ability, not by spilling.Cry to "break the jar and break the jar".

Host sa Bing, when he was an intern at CCTV, was often criticized by his leaders for being slow to respond, so he was assigned to do some chores.

sa Beining endured it silently, and instead of being upset by criticism, he worked harder to learn from his predecessors.

he said that whenever he was free, he would go to the shed of other hosts to imitate and observe.

finally, sa Bing found his own unique style and finally became the pillar of the program.

Don't panic in case of trouble, don't be afraid of being in distress. Emotional stability is the embodiment of a person's inner strength.

our biggest opponent is not others, but our own emotions.

"to be virtuous is to be blessed, to be free from anger is to have no calamity, to be broad-minded and to live longer, and to be rich in wisdom."

whether it is life or work, do not regard temper as skill, do not regard emotion as ability.