After the age of 40, people with real self-discipline have given up nine things.

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some people say:

"in a man's life, the greatest enemy is himself, and the most difficult to defeat is himself."

We can't stop the passage of time, but we can choose what attitude to take towards life.

after the age of 40, people who are really self-disciplined have given up these nine things.

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Don't drink three drinks

1. Don't get drunk

some people are in their prime, but they are sick and weak; others are still Hale and hearty in their twilight years.

it is often a different way of life that opens the gap between people.

take a closer look at the middle-aged people who suffer from three high, fatty liver and stomach diseases:

among the ten, nine are constantly drinking all the year round.

long-term drinking brings a heavy burden to health.

when people reach middle age, the biggest crisis actually comes from themselves.

the more serious the crisis, the more vigilant you are, and the more you need to take care of your health.

so be nice to yourself.

I'd rather wear the stars and the moon than get drunk and hurt myself.

your good luck is hidden in your good habits.

2. Don't drink alcohol

"since you can't escape life, it's better to get drunk and relieve a thousand sorrows."

for middle-aged people, every glass of "stuffy wine" that they drink by themselves is a "sad wine" that can't be relieved.

at a certain age, open your eyes and be surrounded by people who depend on him, but there is no one he can rely on.

what you need to do at this time is to become your own ferryman.

think of a short story.

an old friend of Lin Qingxuan's, recently life is not going well, find him relieved.

Lin Qingxuan pondered over and over again and wrote down only four words as a gift: often think of one or two.

Old friends are puzzled.

Lin Qingxuan explained:

"Life is not satisfactory, nine times out of ten, life unsatisfactory things account for the vast majority."

but after deducting 80% to 90% of the dissatisfaction, at least 12% of the things are satisfactory, happy and gratifying. "

I think so.

in this world, there is no more worry, only the mood of impassability.

instead of drinking and worrying alone in the dark, it is better to light a lamp for yourself in the moment.

Let it go through the vicissitudes of life and be safe and sound inside.

3. Do not drink and persuade

on the table, the cups are staggered and the cups are changed.

people who are keen on persuading and drinking alcohol are mostly glib, not out of kindness.

people seem to be warm-hearted, but in fact, they are worth four volts.

when people reach middle age, they learn to reject hypocritical politeness and filter their own circles.

Don't go to dinner with the committee snake, and refuse to persuade others to cheer up.

Don't drink three drinks

1. Don't get drunk

some people are in their prime, but they are sick and weak; others are still Hale and hearty in their twilight years.

it is often a different way of life that opens the gap between people.

take a closer look at the middle-aged people who suffer from three high, fatty liver and stomach diseases:

among the ten, nine are constantly drinking all the year round.

long-term drinking brings a heavy burden to health.

when people reach middle age, the biggest crisis actually comes from themselves.

the more serious the crisis, the more vigilant you are, and the more you need to take care of your health.

so be nice to yourself.

I'd rather wear the stars and the moon than get drunk and hurt myself.

your good luck is hidden in your good habits.

2. Don't drink alcohol

"since you can't escape life, it's better to get drunk and relieve a thousand sorrows."

for middle-aged people, every glass of "stuffy wine" that they drink by themselves is a "sad wine" that can't be relieved.

at a certain age, open your eyes and be surrounded by people who depend on him, but there is no one he can rely on.

what you need to do at this time is to become your own ferryman.

think of a short story.

an old friend of Lin Qingxuan's, recently life is not going well, find him relieved.

Lin Qingxuan pondered over and over again and wrote down only four words as a gift: often think of one or two.

Old friends are puzzled.

Lin Qingxuan explained:

"Life is not satisfactory, nine times out of ten, life unsatisfactory things account for the vast majority."

but after deducting 80% to 90% of the dissatisfaction, at least 12% of the things are satisfactory, happy and gratifying. "

I think so.

in this world, there is no more worry, only the mood of impassability.

instead of drinking and worrying alone in the dark, it is better to light a lamp for yourself in the moment.

Let it go through the vicissitudes of life and be safe and sound inside.

3. Do not drink and persuade

on the table, the cups are staggered and the cups are changed.

people who are keen on persuading and drinking alcohol are mostly glib, not out of kindness.

people seem to be warm-hearted, but in fact, they are worth four volts.

when people reach middle age, they learn to reject hypocritical politeness and filter their own circles.

Don't go to dinner with the committee snake, and refuse to persuade others to cheer up.

not greedy

1. Not greedy for money

when Qian Zhongshu was young, the media asked him for an exclusive interview, willing to pay a high fee.

Qian Zhongshu only smiled faintly:

the best state of life is not in the material, but in the thickness of the heart.

Zhuangzi has a saying: greed for money and taking danger.

how many people break the bottom line and have a bad reputation.

how many people betray their morality and go to jail?

how many people go astray and ruin their lives.

the first half of life, the pursuit of flashy, led by desire to move forward.

the second half of life, conquer desire and keep a sober mind.

2. Don't be greedy for fame

I like a story in the later Han Dynasty very much.

Feng Yi is one of the famous "Yuntai 28 generals" under Guangwu Emperor Liu Xiu.

whenever he wins a battle, other generals will compete for merit and wish they are famous all over the world.

only Feng Yi, a person sitting under a tree, never cares about these false names.

but when the soldiers were rearranged, almost everyone said they only wanted to follow Feng Yi.

later, those generals who coveted fame were hidden in the clouds of history.

Feng Yi, who keeps a low profile and has no dispute, has been praised by the world.

there is a saying in Yan's Family motto:

A true wise man never pursues the fame of the outside world, but your nature is yours.

As the saying goes, "strong> cannot be clear without indifference, and cannot be far away without serenity."

until you reach the age of forty, you can only be who you really are if you don't live in the eyes of others.

3. Not greedy

Zhihu has a problem: how to keep marriage fresh?

highly praised the answer:

"the real novelty is not to do the same thing with different people, but to do everything with the same person."

when people reach middle age, marriage is like besieging a city.

after seven years of itching, there are always moments when I meet some new faces and I can't help but feel ready to move.

how many couples have a fight, temptation comes to fly.

for people who are emotionally undisciplined, their marriage is like a castle in the air, which may collapse at any time.

once you cross the moral bottom line, you can't take it back, and you can't live a magnanimous life for the rest of your life.

in the second half of life, you have a ruler in your heart and a degree to get along with each other in the face of sexual relations.

Don't say three words

1. Don't talk big

when Zeng Guofan first entered the Imperial Academy, he liked to talk big.

once, a fellow-villager came to wish his father a birthday.

Zeng Guofan boasted himself with a smug look on his face.

as a result, the other party fell out on the spot and left in a huff, which made the birthday party very embarrassing.

only then did Zeng Guofan wake up and regret his improper words and deeds.

showing off oneself will not win the approval of others, but will humiliate itself and reveal its own shallowness.

A man is full of big words. If he is light, he will offend others, and if he is serious, he will get into trouble.

in psychology, there is a "Duck effect": people with lower cognitive level are more likely to be self-righteous.

people who are really reliable tend to be low-key and introverted and never show off.

2. Don't gossip

an online survey shows that

gossiping too much not only reduces work efficiency, but also leaves a bad impression on others.

if you talk too much about right and wrong, if you listen to a variety of people, you will have more trouble.

there are a lot of gossip in the world, and people with high EQ will never gossip regardless of the occasion.